The leap from middle school to high school can be nerve-wracking. Relax. You have already survived eight years of first-day-of-school jitters. You can also take comfort in knowing that Shalhevet is a small school (we have one hallway) where we all can find a way to fit in.
Here are some insights that I picked up during my freshman year, which by the way was not very long ago.
Will I be popular?
Instead of worrying about how to be popular, just be yourself. Chances are, if you are true to yourself, your like-ability quotient will increase exponentially. For instance, if you like to do something quirky like giving manicures, don’t give it up now that you are in high school.
Some of my friends are really into sports while I’m obsessed with Hello Kitty and anything pink. I make sure to cheer them on while they support my strange addiction. Embrace and own your unique self. Value your own quirks and give creds to classmates’ qualities too!
Be kind
Acting kindly and compassionately should not be reserved for the first day of school only. Kindness should be a part of your high school routine!
Sure you’re spectacular, but don’t go around boasting about it. You just got an iPhone? Rather than of strategically placing it so it gets seen by as many classmates as possible, compliment the kid who´s got the really cute agenda planner. Let your actions speak for themselves.
And while you’re at it, try practicing kindness by inviting the kid who is sitting alone at lunch to sit with your crew.
Friends
It’s never a good idea to abandon your old friends. Of course this doesn’t mean that you can’t make any new ones. Navigate the border between old and new friends carefully, so that your middle school friends feel included in the new relationships you will inevitably form at Shalhevet.
As an icebreaker, try a genuine compliment. Ease into a conversation by commenting on a cute outfit. If you’re a guy, bond over basketball or Kobe’s greatness. You could also offer to swap playlists, which will definitely tune you in to the kind of music other kids like.
Don’t be too shy to show your sense of humor. Chances are the first couple of weeks of freshman year are awkward for everyone else too, so ease it up with some humor. No “knock, knock” jokes though.
Academics
It actually is really important to do your best during your high school career, so study! If your friends make fun of you because you are an aspiring brainiac, move on.
As I see it, you only get one chance to complete your high school career successfully, so why waste it?
Social Media vs I.R.L. (in real life)
Attention Facebook and Twitter devotees: while you may have a gazillion “friends” and followers, just recognize that you’re enjoying social interactions all alone. It’s ironic but true.
In addition to wasting hours upon hours of your time (which you should be spending studying for that English test), these so called social media sites create a disconnect between you and your real friends. Oh, and just as an aside, never ever post anything that is can be construed as offensive or as as cyber-bullying. Not that you would, but I’m just saying.
Finally, don’t be afraid to admit that you are indeed a freshman. As a freshman, there are things you may not yet know. With that being said, give upperclassmen some respect. As I see it, the seniors need the freshman so that they can feel needed.
So do your duty and ask the upperclassmen for advice, which will make them feel good. They know stuff even my 11th-grade brother, Jacob, doesn’t know yet. Remember that come next year, you will join the ranks of sophomores and the incoming freshman will get their chance to look up to you.
And remember, freshman year can be challenging, but remember it also offers you a chance to start — fresh!
